Today, as I was scrolling through Facebook, I came across a link to an article that is entitled “You Should’ve Asked”. The link is below. There are many issues contained in this comic, and I cover some of those today, but the first point that I want to make is that articles like these are the epitome of toxic feminism. The biggest reason they are the epitome of toxic feminism is the constant drive to try to turn men into women. Perhaps even more concerning is the fact that the person writing the cartoon has no clue that she is toxic. But that’s topic for another podcast.
In each wave of feminism, there were a group of women who wanted to compete with men. They felt the need to have real ego recognition for their opinions, similar to how a man might express himself. And I do understand that, in the past, women were expected to do “woman” things while men were expected to do “man” things. It is how society was organized to facilitate the continuation of the species. Women were not expected to concern themselves with politics. Women were not expected to concern themselves with making money. And I have seen evidence that when they did, they might be chastised or pushed aside. They might be ridiculed by men. But the mistake feminists made then, and they continue to make today, is that a man’s opinion of them defines them in any way. Or that they should even care much less demand restitution.
Feminism is toxic because it is a reactive ideology. Those who ascribe to feminism continually react as opposed to proactively promoting the uniqueness of femininity. They react to men. They react to what they call misogyny. They react, react, react. And the reaction is negative.
I’ll put the usual caveats in here. Of course, there is a spectrum, the Bell curve. Of course, it is not 100% exactly as I just stated. But everything that makes the news, and goes viral on Facebook, and gets touted by the media, and Hollywood has to do with how women are mistreated or disrespected or attacked and harmed by men.
Women Are Not “Equal” to Men
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Women are not equal to men. Women are different than men. They have different physical bodies. They have different brains. They have a different hormonal structure. These are scientific facts. Where a man will react physically, a woman will react emotionally. Again, there is a spectrum. I’m not going to keep saying that. It is not my intention to offend men or women when I categorize and generalize. It is my intention to point out the differences.
Another idea I’ve said before and I’m going to present it again here is that feminism needs to enhance femininity. And that’s not what has happened. What has been termed feminism is simply an attempt by women to join the man’s world. In reality, no one is stopping them from joining this world. I am speaking of women who are living today. I realize that in the past there were laws that discriminated against women. But that is not the condition that we live in today.
Specificially, in order for feminists to enhance what it means to be a “woman”, they need to better understand what makes them women. They need to better understand their emotions. They need to better understand how they think differently than men. They need to better understand how they approach problems differently than men. They need to understand that what is important to them and their happiness is not the same as what is important to a man and his happiness.
Most of all, what they need to understand is how to interact with the other half of society. They need to understand how to communicate with a man. By that I mean they need to understand how they think, how the men in their lives think, and how can they bridge the gap so that communication actually happens between the sexes.