Abortion Philosophy or Non-Philosophy
Abortion philosophy or non-philosophy is a question that cannot be answered by one podcast. The point I want to make with this one is that, rather than promoting abortion as the best way to take care of an unwanted pregnancy, what would happen if we invested those dollars into promoting a system that cared for children that were born of unplanned pregnancies? What if we also invested in the lives and personal development of the women who made this live-altering mistake. What if, rather than supporting the poor choices of irresponsible and low self-esteem humans in their quest for unlimited pleasure without consequences, what if we helped them gain the self-assurance and self-respect that leading a focused and disciplined life provides?
Rather than supporting women in fulfilling a fantasy that abortion relieves them of the responsibility for what comes with that female body, what if we truly helped them through the pain of a mistake that can never be taken back by supporting them through the process of pregnancy and delivery and placing the child in a loving home, all while re-educating them in what it means to be a responsible adult. That’s 6, 7, 8 months of loving support and education about how the mistake was made, how to make sure the mistake is not made in the future, how to get back on track with building the life that was imagined and reassuring that woman that the child of her loins is safe and secure in a loving and supportive environment. What if Planned Parenthood supported those couples who are not able to have children, assisting them in realizing their planned dream of parenthood while helping to heal the hearts of women who have made the gravest of errors in judgement.
Teenagers need someone to talk with about their sexuality as it relates to their life goals other than peers that are just as uneducated and having the same issues. Mothers and grandmothers make yourselves available to your children and to the children of others who may not have your wisdom. Young ladies listening that do not have someone like that, find a local church or seek out an organization like Students for Life. Feel free to contact me at email@example.com. I will make time for you or find someone to help you in the area where you live.
When you have those feelings about a boy and you cannot talk to your mom, grandma, aunt or if you feel they will urge you to give in to the sexual desire rather than make the harder choice, find someone else who can help you. DO NOT rely on relatives that have been brain-washed into burying their own guilt for their transgressions. DO NOT rely on peers that are just as lost as you are.
When you know that you don’t want to have sex because you know your responsibility as a woman but you are feeling the desire, and it feels like it is just pulling you along and you feel helpless to resist it, remember that what you truly want is that love and bond with your ideal partner. You really, really need good female guidance in alignment with your values. Guys are on a different path and have different issues. You need female guidance.
Maybe you feel the desire but you do not know if he is the right one or you really, really, really think he is the right one but commitment has not been made and the feelings are strong, and you are taking tiny steps in the wrong direction. STOP. JUST STOP. Find someone to talk to that can help you stay on track with your life plan. Your life and future depends on it and the life and future of that husband and those beautiful children you dream of having together depend on it. Remember studentsforlife.org or a local church. And firstname.lastname@example.org is my email address.
The exit music for this podcast is a song with an accompanying video that was recently launched in Ireland designed to draw attention to women who are suffering from regret and sadness after abortion. I’ve included a link to the YouTube video and a link to where you can purchase it for $0.99 on iTunes.
The quote for today’s podcast comes from Beatrice Fedor, Member of the Silent No More Campaign:
“I flushed my baby in the toilet and it was horrifying. And it didn’t help me to graduate. It’s been nineteen years and to this day, I don’t have a degree. […] Seven years later, I got pregnant again. The father was twice my age and he was abusive. Abortion was the quick fix solution to protect myself and my baby from the abuser. So I went to a clinic and in great anxiety, I was put to sleep. When I woke up with blood on my legs, I burst into tears and I was inconsolable. I sank deeper and deeper into depression and suicidal thoughts.
Then, I met my husband and he brought Jesus into my life but I was still hurting. When I was pregnant with our first child, my abortions resurfaced and the guilt was overwhelming. I went to counseling and I started to heal. Later, I attended a Rachel’s Vineyard Retreat and finally, I was able to forgive myself and find peace.
Abortion promised to free me from two crisis situations and instead, it has nearly destroyed me. But there is hope for all those who are hurting and it is for them that I am Silent No More.”
Thank you so much for listening and until next time, may you grow your life gracefully, with wisdom in every step.
- Lingering Psychological Effects of Multiple Sex Partners, Psychology Today, 2013
- The Truth Behind Why Women Find It Harder To Have Casual Sexa Than Men Do, Elite Daily, April 2014
- Response to Teen Vogue from a Pro-Life Teen
- YouTube Video: Every Time by Roger Berkeley
- Purchase Every Time on iTunes
- Silent No More Awareness Campaign Website