VWP 065: The Oscars
Ah, the Oscars. I have so many emotions right now but they have nothing to do with the Oscars. It’s about my parents. I love them, I miss them, I appreciate all that they did for me. I forgive them for their human failings. I am fortunate. I had the best parents anyone could have asked for. I will regret to my grave that I did not give the same to my children.
And that is what motivates me to speak to you. It is what motivates me to try and correct the course for women in this country. Movies stars and glamour are not what we want for our children. The lives of those people are completely foreign to the reality of the average human being. Since at least the 1960’s they aggressively encouraged us to idolize their lives of glamour which inevitably have deep issues with debauchery and vileness. Oh, it didn’t start that way, but we eventually got there. We were trained to accept them as a normal part of society. Which they are. They are a normal part of society. We have had entertainers throughout history and we always will. No, it was the illusion that they are the norm and we are the oddballs that they instilled in us. Bit by bit. A little bit here and a little bit there. Give in to your desire for excess. Give in to your desire to indulge your senses and lose yourself in pleasure. No matter that for every high there is a low. And if you go really, really high, the chances of you falling very, very low are huge.
The Oscars illustrate the best of creation and the worst of evil. We women have veered far from the path of virtue, the path that includes emotional discipline, honor, faithfulness, and chastity. But if we again, listen to our hearts and our heart’s desire to be women, to be the nurturers of our husbands and children and parents and grandchildren. If we can just listen to that biological drive to be the rock that holds the family together. If we can tap into it and hold on tight, no matter the storms that may arise as we turn against the tide. If we can know what we value above all else. If we can stand courageously against the backlash that is sure to come from the women we will again begin to identify as only worthy of our attention for entertainment but not as role models for what we want for our daughters. We will need to stand strong against the minority with the microphone, stage and promotional teams that will try to scream us down and scream for relevance.
The women of the Oscars are the minority. And yes, they have the right to choose the life they choose. I say more power to them. But to come back around and start screaming for more rights than they have already exercised is ludicrous. To come back around and start screaming that they stand for femininity with their slutty ways, mannish presentation, aggressively forcing their will on others is hypocrisy. Being feminine does not include being a slut. Being feminine does not include looking or acting like a man. Being feminine means knowing what it means to be receptive and show deference. And that does NOT include being submissive. Get that out of your head right now.
If we can make these distinctions clear for our daughters. If we can make clear the distinction that glamour is useful for one purpose and one purpose only. You bring out the big guns of glamour when you have found the man of your dreams. And that man is not some Hollywood player that hangs out with loose women lacking any understanding of morals and how to live a virtuous life. That man of your daughter’s dreams has a value system and shows virtue through action. That man knows what it means to be a man that will value a woman, protect her, support her, care for her and their children and who will stick with her through thick and thin till death do they part. That is the purpose of glamour. It is not a career. It is a tool to be used wisely.
I’m not watching the Oscars. I love looking at the pictures afterwards. I love the still photos of glamour but I have never worshiped at the altar of glamour for glamour’s sake. I’ll skip the speeches and patting on the back for a good performance. I’ve been a dancer and know the great feeling that you get from those times. I loved getting that attention from my peers. It just never occurred to me that being good at pretending to live life by performing for an audience would transfer to telling other people how they should live their lives. I’m more in line with Ghandi on that one.
The quote for today’s podcast comes from Mahatma Ghandi: My life is my message.
- What are the Oscars
- What are the Golden Globe Awards
- Why does it matter to you and your family?
- Golden Globe Awards
- Hollywood Foreign Press Association
- Academy Awards
- Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences
- Merriam-Webster Dictionary: Academy
- Slate Article on Gender Wage Gap in Hollywood
- British women would pick being a housewife