Praise vs Victimhood Entitlement
The topic of the day is Praise and how that relates to, or how the lack of praise relates to, self-pity, victimhood and entitlement. This is not in relation to praise in the religious or worship sense of the word where praise is used to express thanks to or love and respect for God. I’m going to be talking about praise in the general sense of thinking, speaking, or writing “good things” about someone or something.
I’ve spoken before about the various meditations techniques I have learned over the years. My preferred method is called ascension. It is a series of techniques I use to reconnect to infinite space. There was something that happened inside me the very first time I tried to use this technique without even having an instructor to show me the proper technique and to explain why it worked and so on. The first time I just thought to myself PRAISE. I was able to bring myself out of perpetual victimhood and negativity from that point forward.
Any time that there is this dance being played out there is a victim and there is an abuser. There is the one who has self-pity for themselves or another who they perceive are being misused or abused or taken advantage of and so on. So they need a rescuer. And some of you that have dealt with this will know that the rescuer is oftentimes simply an enabler.
My point in this podcast is that there is a way to get out of any circumstance where one is oppressed, victimized, beaten down, held down by society or whatever. And it has nothing to do with getting something from someone else. It has everything to do with reaching down inside of yourself and praising what is beautiful. Find something to praise. Find the good. Look for the good. Focus on the productive. Focus on what is good in others. Keep focusing on what is good in others. Focusing inwardly on praise automatically brought praise to my awareness outwardly as well. It brought me to a place where I looked for things to praise. And I looked for things to praise because praise made me feel good. And you know what? It made others feel good too. And they smiled and that made me feel good that I had made someone smile if only for an instant. And perhaps they would take that smile farther and their life would change also. Who knows? We never know. I wasn’t personally responsible for maintaining that smile on their face. That was their responsibility. But I was responsible for providing a positive experience that could be chosen by that person again, and again and again if they choose to do so. They must empower themselves. I can show the way but it is up to you and those that hear me to continue the wave in your own life.
No one can give you that. You must create it for yourself. No amount of entitlement is going to get you where you want to go. It is praise, gratitude and love for what you already have and what is already in your life that makes the difference and Praise above all. It is the starting point in my experience. When you look for others that have less than you and praise them for their efforts, or a loving nature, or a beautiful smile, or point out a beautiful day to someone looking down at the sidewalk. When you help others, you help yourself and vice versa. I started by praising within and then it just burst out of me all the time. Another person might begin by praising outwardly to realize their inner beauty.
Personal responsibility has become a dirty word for some in our society. Mostly those that see black and white, rich and poor, fat and skinny, man and woman and feel they must take a side. If you take a side, there is a victim and an abuser. If you take personal responsibility, well that is a completely different experience. Black and white, rich and poor, men and women still exist. But they are not at odds with one another. Each has unique benefits to be praised. When you reach that state it is much easier to find and assist those that are truly victims. And even their victimhood is fleeting. The 12-year-old rape victim can come to know that she is beautiful and loved no matter what has happened. The victim of a flood or fire can come to know that though the security they thought they had in their home is gone, there is security in those neighbors that come to help in a time of need.
There is awesome beauty in the world everywhere you look. It doesn’t mean that there are not bad people and that bad things don’t happen. They most certainly do. People are born into adverse conditions. Children are the victims of war ravaged countries. People lose their houses, their livelihoods, their parents or spouses or children or other loved ones. But you are a victim entitled to getting something from someone else only if you choose to be. If ever you find yourself slipping back into victimhood, remember to praise anything and do it for 5 or 10 minutes and see how you feel. Can you feel the inner power rising up within you? That power to respond to the situation? That feeling of power that comes with personal responsibility?
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