Gratitude – the Cure for Entitlement
Gratitude — My parents taught me that the world does not owe me a living and they used those exact words. The world does not owe you a living. They used it when I was being lazy and didn’t want to do chores and such. So it was a kind of shaming punishment in the way that it was used, but still it stuck with me over the years. I grew up in a time when people taught their children how to be productive in society. In fact, they knew that as their job as a parent. Their job was to raise children who would add to society and make it more productive.
Those times seem to be gone now or mostly gone. I don’t believe they are entirely gone, only if you watch the news to know what is going on in the world, it would seem that way. I watch the pundits on TV talking about what they call news. I see them simply trying to stimulate emotions so that people will watch their programs. And it makes me angry. It is the short-term thinking that makes me angry. The instant gratification of a good rating for a particularly emotional story where the anchors can use their virtue-signaling emotions to show how caring and compassionate they are in front of an audience. Because so many children were raised in front of the TV – I guess that was beginning somewhere in the late 70s and early 80s that it became the real norm of raising children. They were put in front of the TV for entertainment and we adults were in front of the TV and got lots of our entertainment that way as well. So we taught them by example that this was the way to live life. We sat in front of the TV and were entertained.
But we also use this equipment to help us define who we are and that is where the problems begin I think. We used to see our parents in interactions with others. With each other, with our siblings, with their friends, with people at church and at other social events. This was really how we used to learn how to define ourselves. This was how we defined who we would be in society. We picked people that were attractive to us in some way and began to emulate them. We learned to walk like them, talk like then and think like them. Now take that to the point where there are two parents working and the children are being quote “watched” by someone else. That might be a loving relative. But it is more likely to be a slightly above minimum age young person who likes kids and works at a day care.
Every time I start on a topic in one of these podcasts, I seem to end up coming across so many other thoughts that branch off from the topic at hand. There were so many issues in those last statements that I made that I could do three or four more topics on. Anyway, there is a whole podcast that I could do on the lack of responsibility that we humans are taking today in the raising of our children and how much they learn from simply watching and doing as we do. And then we wonder why they act as they do. But I don’t want to get distracted by that. I’m going to move forward with the understanding that this does, indeed, happen and we, as parents and role models, are responsible for our children’s thinking habits to a great extent.
So the idea that as a responsible adult we are responsible for our lives has been lost over the years. I hope to help bring that back with my podcasts. And today I want to give some evidence that there just might be a cure for the adults who seek it out. And the cure can be taught to children for those that are willing to take the time to understand the depth of the influence it can have on their children’s lives as they reach adulthood. So the TV has taught and continues to influence our thinking and especially the thinking of our children. And we are constantly bombarded with images of people in need. You being to think the whole world is in need and no one is responding. The fact is that we are responding. We are sending lots of money via the government to poor people and they want more. Indeed, they feel and we are encouraged by the media to feel that they are helpless and needy and entitled to our stuff. We are selfish if we don’t give it to them. And on and on it goes. And it sickens me and it sickens all of humanity in another way. It is decaying our society.
- Define Entitled and Need
- Robin Woodall