Free Will and Morality
The detonation of Free and Morality coincided with this kind of woman’s “click” moment where the originators of the women’s rights said “I can do so much more than this”. And frankly, if your job as a mother is to be a maid, a chauffeur and a cook, you suck at being a mom. That is just terrible parenting. You are a disengaged parent who is not talking to your children. You are not spending your time thinking about how you can raise the most confident and productive human being that the planet has ever seen. You are not thinking about how you can use your life as an example for your children. You are very caught up in thinking you don’t matter. You are very caught up in thinking that the only thing of value is bringing in money and making a career for yourself or being famous or whatever. And truthfully, there is nothing wrong with those goals. Unless you’ve decided you want to be a mother. If you want to be a mother, then be a mother. Spend your days and nights thinking about and getting better at being the best example of a human being that you can be. You children will learn from your example.
Think about how to use every moment of your life as an example of what being an adult means. Your children are watching you. And they want to be with you. They want to be like you. So you can be a disengaged parent and they will also be disengaged parent – or choose not to be a parent at all because you showed them how boring and unrewarding and pedantic and useless parenting is. Or you can have the most amazing conversations in the car on the way to the grocery. You can get your children involved and have conversations while you are doing the laundry. You don’t need a lot of brain power to empty a dishwasher. But you can talk about the history tableware. You can talk about how funny the word spork is – there are so many things that you can do. Nobody enjoys chores.
If you aren’t really enjoying being a parent, maybe you shouldn’t have been a parent in the first place. If you are not engaged with your children, you are functioning as a utility robot around your children. How boring is that? Of course, that’s boring. If you have the capacity to do something really smart with your life, why on earth would you want to be a driver or chauffeur, a low-rent cook, or a house maid? If you had the chance to be a lawyer and you were a maid, yeah, you’re kind of underutilizing yourself. But the idea that being a mom has something to do with fundamentally doing chores and not to do with engaging challenging, exciting, brain-molding conversations with the future of mankind means that you are completely missing what parenting is all about and maybe you would be better off in an office. How is work not more of a chore? Meetings, memos, junk to read, being on hold with customer support, watching the clock and wanting to be somewhere else . . . .
The sewing of the seed of discontent was foundational to the detonation of the foundations of western civilization. I have to push back. You can do everything a man can do. And you can be a mother. But you don’t need to do both at the same time. They are both full time jobs. To be a working mother means working two full-time jobs. And to expect people to feel sorry for you because you made these choices is ludicrous. You chose this. Men don’t choose it. Men work and bring home the bacon. That’s what they do. They support you so you can raise the children. They can’t and don’t have kids. That’s your job. You have the womb and boobs. Why would college and work be more important than the life you have created? If you are going to school or going to work, you are not being a good mom because you are not with your kids. Someone else is raising your kids during that time and it’s not you. Why does this even have to be said? You can’t be in two places at once. You can’t be a great business person and a mother also. You can only be in one place at a time. If you are at work, you are not with your kids. You can get a job and change jobs if you don’t like how it is going. You can’t go back and redo the raising of your children.
If you want to have kids it’s not like you can never work again. It’s a few years per child. You take off from the work force to go to school or go to college, 4 years or more, and it’s an investment in your future. Why is college and you and your paycheck any different or, dare I say, more important than the life you have created that biologically and psychically and emotionally and spiritually is completely and totally dependent and wedded upon your proximal existence? Why is the time investment in college more important than the time investment in your offspring and the future of humanity?
They will grow up and you will still have a very long life with many opportunities to fulfill your career desires. Colonel Sanders started Kentucky Fried Chicken at 65 years of age. I implore young women today to think about being a mom. Dig deep into what that means. Dig deep into what it means for humanity. You see too much violence, raise peaceful children. Too much intolerance, raise peaceful children. Too much excess, raise peaceful children. Too much disregard for nature, raise peaceful children. And on and on. Can you begin to see that the power to change the course of our country and our world lies not in politics but in the raising of the children that will be the future that will need no one in politics to tell them how to be a decent human being. They will not need to try and fail at legislating morality. They will grow up with it and they will teach their children as well. People think being the President of the United States is the most powerful job in the world. But they are wrong. Learning more about and changing the way we are parenting is the most powerful job in the world.
The quote for today’s podcast comes from Pinterest and I don’t really know who first made the statement but here it is: Motherhood is not a battle against other mothers. Motherhood is YOUR journey with YOUR children.
I’m ending with a different song today. It’s a Home Free cover of Shakira’s Try Everything from the movie Zootopia. I haven’t seen the movie but love the song and the message.
Thank you so much for listening and until next time, may you grow your life gracefully, with wisdom in every step.