Who Am I?
Who am I? Well, many of us spend far too long in our lives looking for that answer to that elusive question. It seems to keep changing. And duh, of course it changes. Because we are continually having new and different experiences that change our perspective on ourselves and the world.
You are your story and there are many, many pieces of information you can use to define who you are. For instance, I could define myself as being the victim of a poor childhood where I didn’t learn the things I needed to become successful in this world at the age of whatever. That’s not a very good example for my life as I began my first screw up at 17 and not even an adult. Anyway, I could remain in that feeling of being a victim or I could switch to the experiences that molded me in a way that has been very beneficial to me. Sure I had some rough knocks, but I had a great education and I am very intelligent. I eventually found my way to the IT field and was able to make a good living. Would I have like to have made those choices earlier? Of course I would. And hopefully, some of you are much younger than I am and will take heed of some of what I say. You can be much more successful, much more quickly when you learn earlier that it is the choices that you make based on the tools and experiences you have acquired over the years. One of the tools you were born with is the ability to visualize yourself as you desire to be. It takes a little practice, but it is fully within the capabilities of anyone with the ability to think. And if you are listening to me you definitely have the ability to think and reason and to take in more information and to learn from life.
Who am I? You choose. Sit down and make a list of the people you admire. They can be fictional. They can be people you know. The people don’t have to be perfect in every way. What you are looking for is to identify the qualities you admire in those people. You don’t have to admire every aspect of their personality. You are also looking for things that people have done that you admire. Accomplishments. Those accomplishments could be starting a business but then what business. Now you have to look deeper at what you love to do. Putting all of these things together in a visual manner is also helpful. Paste pictures on a board and write notes about each one to remind yourself of why that picture is there. This is a very basic sketch of a kind of mind map of where you want to get to. And the map may change over time. You can find resources on line to help you flesh out this exercise to your liking. The point is that keeping that visual image in front of you is what guides you to fulfill who you want to be. The focus of your life shifts from “who am I” to “this is who I want to be”. And if it appears there are obstacles in your way, perhaps you will include a person on your vision board or collage that overcame obstacles to achieve the best they had to offer.
You are your story. You are actually whoever you define yourself to be. Who will I be?
The quote for today’s podcast comes from Theodore Roosevelt: Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.