It’s Sunday afternoon and I think I may just have enough time to create and finish this blog.
I have the best husband I could have ever asked for. Sometimes I wonder how I could be so fortunate. And then again, I distinctly remember creating an image and an idea, written down on paper, describing my perfect relationship, my perfect partner, and the husband I desired.
There have been many times in my life when I felt out of control. I felt like the world was happening “to me”. Even though I have had extensive training, experience, and understanding sometimes it still feels like I’m not in charge of my life and someone or something else is controlling me. But when I draw on the education and experience I just mentioned, I end up feeling empowered. I end up having exactly what I want in my life.
Regarding visualizing my “perfect husband”, I was at a very low point in my life when I decided I needed to get off my rear and do something about living the life that I imagined in my dreams. From the time I was a child, I dreamed of having the perfect relationship, the perfect husband. It was time that I really considered what that meant. It was time to bring it out on paper before me. I needed to see what it was that I was imagining.
The process I used to create my desire was writing down the qualities I desired in my partner using the image of a person who I’d had a previous relationship with. I described every part of that person that I remembered with love. Most of the reason for the low point in my life was the ending of that relationship – so I left out the bad parts. I wanted to re-create it. Only this time, due to growing up a little bit, I was ready to really make it work.
To make a long story short, what ultimately happened was this exact same person came back into my life. And just as I had imagined, I was much more grown-up. I knew what I wanted to do and how I wanted to be in a relationship. I knew how I wanted to be treated and I knew how I wanted to treat my partner. Most of all knew what to be grateful for every day – the details of that list.
One of the greatest revelations I had had during my “low point”, was that I needed to put forth effort to make this relationship happen and to make it work. Prior to this, I had had the very incorrect idea that relationships were like the story of Cinderella and Prince charming. Or Snow White and her Prince charming. But life is not a fairytale. Sure the meeting – the beginning – can be very much like a fairytale. But to make it ongoing and lasting requires a common vision and the willingness to put forth the effort to make it happen. And for me it means having the willingness to make sure my partner knows how grateful I am for his presence in my life.
This morning, for whatever reason, I was experiencing extreme emotional turmoil. I went to my husband, expressed this same thought to him, and I requested his assistance. He sat with me, not speaking, and listening as I talked and talked and talked with no direction and no point. Do you have any idea how difficult that can be? Once I reached the point of being “talked out”, he guided me with his words to a point of focus in the center of my being where I could reconnect with the love and beauty that is always there. The emotional turmoil disappeared. My feet were firmly back on the ground once again. I was whole again. I am grateful every day for his love and support.
May you also have all you desire in your life.