Biggest Mistake Ever
Recently I was listening to a podcast, Biggest Mistake Ever, published by Stefan Molyneux and in it he gave some really great info on talking with teenagers about their relationships, specifically slut shaming. I want to take a stab at that topic myself. I’ve linked to the YouTube video in the show notes so you can add Stefan’s wisdom as well.
The thing that stimulated this podcast was the way in which he communicated with this young lady. Of all the material I’ve consumed over the years, Stefan’s material presents the greatest, and deepest, understanding of young men and their relationships. He also often shares really, really valuable information for girls as well. I want to share some of those ideas and expand on them as well.
In today’s world, slut shaming is against the rules according to liberals and social justice warriors. It’s bad for anyone to slut shame a woman. There are lots of words we can’t use today or we will get shamed by the left. There are lots of ideas that, if shared, will be looked upon with horror by liberals. We have let them control this narrative for far too long. It’s time to speak up and speak out. We have let the liberals define what deserves shame for far too long. They have failed. Sexual promiscuity is heralded as right and just, when in fact, it is simply women acting like sluts. Sexual promiscuity was, is, and ever shall be, acting like a slut. Indeed, when I looked up the definition using Google search, the first entry says this: “a woman who has many casual sexual partners.”
Here’s what Wikipedia has to say. “Slut is generally a term for a woman or girl who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. It is usually used as an insult, sexual slur or offensive term of disparagement (slut shaming).”
Farther down the page, under the heading of “etymology, common usages and synonyms” there is this. “The common denotative meanings are a sexually promiscuous woman, or an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute. These definitions identify a slut as a woman of low character — a person who lacks the ability or chooses not to exercise a power of discernment to order her affairs. Similar terms used for men are cad, rake, male slut, man whore, womanizer, stud, and player.”
I find it interesting that the definition on the male side includes all kinds of characteristics that can be displayed by men that are completely undesirable, yet that is what you get when you are a slut. I’ll put a link in the show notes in case you want to read the details on Wikipedia.
We can put any number of pretty phrases in place of slut, but it still equivocates to a woman of low character. We have let the women of Hollywood normalize this behavior. We have let the women of Hollywood shame us for shaming them. And look at the result. We have young women having sex with as many men as they wish seemingly without consequences. We’ve normalized it. We have birth control. We have better medical care for the diseases sure to arise. Our young women are being misled into believing that there are no consequences.
I’ve included in the show notes a YouTube video created by students for life. It is called “response to teen Vogue from a pro-life teen”. It’s about nine minutes long. Every teenage girl who is reached puberty can benefit from listening to Autumn speak about the reality of the horrors any woman experiences when having an abortion. Yes, there are consequences. There are sexually transmitted diseases. I have no idea how much education today’s teenager gets on these topics. But that’s not what I’m here to talk about today. What I want to talk about are the soul-destroying consequences, and life-destroying consequences of being a slut.
Additionally, I will briefly discuss the soul-destroying effects of sexual promiscuity and give you a couple of references. In March 2013 there is an article in psychology today, reference below, titled “How Casual Sex Can Affect Our Mental Health”. Let me just quote a couple of sentences and I’ll leave reading the entire article in your hands, according to your schedule.
“As we predicted, people who engaged in more hookups had greater psychological distress. College students who recently engaged in casual sex reported lower levels of self-esteem, life satisfaction, and happiness compared to those who had not had casual sex in the past month.”
Another article you can take a look at is from everyday health.com and is titled “Can Promiscuity Threaten Longevity?” This article is from July 2010.
“Promiscuity is one example of a class of high-risk behaviors, says Deidra Lee Fitzgerald PhD Assistant Prof. of psychology at Eastern Connecticut State University. It is comparable to, and may coincide with, behaviors such as heavy drinking, gambling, and other thrill-seeking behaviors like driving too fast.”
Farther down the page under the heading “How Promiscuity Affects Emotional Health” we find,
“Having many more partners than average is considered a sexual health risk. And that risk extends to your emotional health as well. The impact of these high-risk behaviors on one’s emotional health includes making dangerous choices that lead to more and more risk. This cycle can lead to problems with self-concept, ineffective relationships, and even depression.”
Another article in psychology today, “The Lingering Psychological Effects of Multiple Sex Partners”, has this to say. “Although women and men are developing similar patterns of sexual behavior and substance use, particularly in this cohort, the effects are stronger for women, as I noted earlier. It appears that the double standard is still alive and well. For women, having multiple sex partners still may go against what they regard as socially acceptable. They cope with their feelings of shame, embarrassment, and perhaps dissatisfaction by turning to the solace of alcohol and drugs, setting them up for the future development of a substance use disorder.”
And just one more, this one from The Daily Mail, “Sex: Why It Makes Women Fall In Love But Just Makes Men Want More!” This excerpt from this article comes under the heading “Why Love Hurts”.
“A key hormone released during sex is oxytocin, also known as the cuddle hormone. This lowers our defenses and makes us trust people more, says Dr. Arun Ghosh, a GP specializing in sexual health at the Spire Liverpool Hospital.
“It’s also the key to bonding, as it increases levels of empathy. Women produced more of this hormone, although it’s not clear why, and this means they are more likely to let their guard down and fall in love with the man after sex.
“However, the problem is that the body can’t distinguish whether the person we are with is a casual fling or marriage material — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short term relationship ends.”
I’ve put links below for all of these articles so you can go and read the entire text.
There are lots and lots of information pieces out there on the Internet regarding the detrimental effects of multiple sexual partners for women. That continual bond, break the bond, bond again, break the bond, and bond yet again — in the end it breaks the woman. It is literally like getting married over, and over, and over again. The cumulative grief is devastating. After a while, the woman just shuts down. There is only so much emotional pain she is willing to take. Her life becomes empty and she doesn’t know why. The results of the sexual revolution of the 60s is a whole lotta women who are bitter and bitchy and filled with self-loathing and vengeance toward men. These women make horrible relationship partners – They are no longer capable of sustaining a long-term relationship – a life-long marriage. In short, they are not marriage material. Sluts are never marriage material.
I could go on and on in the negative, but what I want to do in this podcast is present options for what you can do as a parent, mentor, sibling, or whatever to assist our young women in navigating the horrendous, shark filled waters of today’s Love Boat. How can we help our young girls who are bombarded and heavily influenced by peer pressure, and with the threat of ostracism if they don’t go along with the current social norm?
- Biggest Mistake Ever – Stefan Molyneux.
- Wikipedia — Slut
- Response to Teen Vogue from a Pro-Life Teen – Students for Life
- How Casual Sex Can Affect Our Mental Health – Psychology Today
- Can Promiscuity Threaten Longevity – everydayhealth.com
- Lingering Psychological Effects of Multiple Sex Partners – Psychology Today
- Sex: Why it makes women fall in love – but just makes men want MORE! – Daily Mail.com
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